Living abroad, means being far away from my girlfriend, family and friends. So, like everybody from my generation I established a long distance relationship via the social network, Skype, email and phone. However not everyone understands and knows how to use these tools. My mother for instance could be able to type “google” on Google search and thinks like my father that Facebook is the devil. A thing which I played with by writing some ridiculous messages on her facebook account that I created like “take care of my lovely, sweet son for me” or “I don’t understand how to publish a picture on ” to my friend and family. It has resulted in a lot of answers explaining to her how to use Facebook that I kept on for a long time and also a massive freak out on their behalf: Oh my God! We are being spied on by Mr Wine Note’s mother!
About Skype, I spent the most of our first conversation explaining to them how it works on the phone because they couldn’t manage to call me without a webcam or a sound problem. The worst is that I explained it to them before leaving. With these kind of difficulties for my parents, I didn’t even try to talk about Skype to my grandparents. Also sometimes Skype doesn’t want to work correctly like the statue “invisible” which is supposed to mask my connection to my contacts when I don’t want to be disturbed, making everyone call. Furthermore, I don’t know why but everyone from each part of France always choses to call at the same time. Another one is that I can’t send links by Skype just to one of my contact. I speak with my girlfriend every day via Skype for hours, so much in fact that it makes me feel that I speak more French than English during my spare time and I often don’t know what to speak about because I’ve already told her all the news the day before. So even if I like to see her and talk with her, I wonder: why girls always want to talk for at least 1 hour every single day?
But because it’s the informatics area doesn’t mean that I gave up to the old way: letters and more particularly cards. It’s a very traditional thing in England, you can find special card store in every town and city. The ranges of different cards of all sizes, styles and shapes are so wide that’s sometime it’s difficult to make a choice. Thus I sent a card shaped like a pack of beer for my father’s birthday, a princess card for my little sister because she hates princess stuff, a card with a wonderful lazy fat bear with a thermometer to support my girlfriend’s diet (she didn’t appreciate it) and a cute little hamster card addressed to my friend’s cat for their birthday. And of course I chose the most beautiful for the Valentine’s Day and wrote something romantic, things that I’m not used to.
Usually I am more the anti-romantic sort of guy. For instance, the previous Valentine’s Day I made for her in a romantic atmosphere a candlelight dinner, literally I mean (grated candle, candle soup, baked candle), finally we ate pizza. Another one is when I made a paper rose because I forgot to buy a real one. I like to transform the word Romantic in Rome Antic. However this year I tried to surprise her by singing her a song recorded in video. I know! What a shame! And so to catch me up from this disaster I send her another card with some very raw contents, like the British humour.
Being loyal I didn’t notice at all that a girl I met in a pub tried to date. Actually, she proposed me to teach her basic French in exchange for teaching me English. I accepted and started seriously to create some lessons and exercises. Finally for the first and last lesson, I had barely taught her a few sentences before she asked me to go at the restaurant to speak only English. As I didn’t do anything, she left and has never called me back for “the lessons”.
To conclude, people can think that it could be tough to have long distance relationship, but actually it allow you to know how much you care about your friends and family.